Romantic Love Languages

By: S.B. Johnson

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S.B. Johnson, EDITOR

Everyone has a love language. A love language is a way you show your affection. Whether it’s giving or receiving gifts, touch, words of affection, acts of service, or quality time it’s important to be accepting of all the love languages. Each one is a different process and reasoning. Good or bad there tends to be a reason why your love language is the one it is. We will go over each love language and what it is along with a general explanation of what it COULD say about you.

 

Acts of Service
Definition
For people who have the love language, acts of service actions speak louder than words. Acts of Service is a language that can best be described as doing something for your partner that you know they would like. These services don’t tend to be super big but like little small things to help someone out throughout the day.
What it says about you
After reading about this, let’s discuss the personality traits that could lead to this becoming your love language. You’re most likely super self-sufficient and ambitious. People don’t always mean it when they say I love you so you tend to react to actions better (This doesn’t mean you have trust issues, though you could). In a nutshell: “You can talk the talk, but can you walk the walk? Sometimes I need you to show me you love me through your actions.” (Createdwithlove.com)

 

Touch
Definition
They are very hands-on when it comes to people who they care for. In a nutshell: “Sometimes I just need a hug and a kiss” (createdwithlove.com). To this person an I love you is the same as a small touch. Maybe it’s hand holding, a hug, or even just little touches here and there.
What it says about you
Though not always these people tend to be touch starved or crave touch. “Those who speak the language of ‘physical touch’ thrive on physical connection with their partner. From holding hands to hugs, affectionate contact, and displays, a massage or a kiss, these individuals want their partner to be intentional in the way that they express their love physically” (noteablelife.com).

 

Words of Affection
Definition
The only love language revolves around verbal expression. Words of affirmation are words that communicate your love, appreciation, and respect for another person. They’re positive words and phrases used to uplift, someone.
What it says about you
Your parents may not have given you validation or didn’t know how to. They were uncomfortable expressing their true feelings and it left you feeling misunderstood. You crave somebody to understand you, appreciate you, and notice your efforts.

 

Gifts
Definition
Giving gifts is something that people do to show appreciation to a person that they love. Whether that be a homemade gift or bought gifts, you try to find the best kind of gift that will suit that person to show you love for them.

What it says about you
You might see gifts as a way people express their gratitude towards you. You might see it as a way to see if they know your interests. Your parents might have gotten your things as a way to express their affection since they weren’t able to do it verbally or physically.

 

Quality Time
Definition
Quality time is the one that centers around togetherness. “It’s all about expressing your love and affection with your undivided attention. They feel important, loved, and special—like you were intentional in setting aside time just for them.” (verywellmond.com). Being around the person they care about is the best feeling they can have. They crave time, not physicality or gifts, just your time.
What it says about you
This tends to be a person who grew up with being either sent away a lot as a child or someone who has commitment issues. Sometimes it means that the people of your childhood were physically there but you didn’t feel seen. You now want people to be fully present with you, and show you that they want to be around you.